This week: Radiators, Drains and another type of person!

Well, since last week it’s been a whirlwind. I promised myself (and you) I would get moving forward with my actions towards success and what a week it has been. I have forgotten just how much I have managed to get done.

I’m still scared a bit but mostly excited, isn’t funny how these two feel very similar, and the only difference is mindset?

I remember a good friend of mine telling me there were two types of people, radiators and drains. People who radiate positivity and vigour, and those who just “drain the life out of you” as my friend put it.

This week, I have attracted lots of radiators, from unexpected places and it’s been inspiring to have them push me forward and I felt I’ve been able to provide a bit of forward movement for them too which is amazing.

I went to a networking event, and although I didn’t do as well as I wanted to, I got there and spoke to people – next one at the end of the month – I will be braver still at that one. Being surrounded by positive and successful people really is catching and I love it.

I’m very lucky that I have very few drains in my life, they probably got annoyed with my positivity to be honest but there are a few and this week I’ve found a way to tune out of it so that it doesn’t “stick” to me.

I only listen to actions.

People moan a lot, I believe some of it is genuine, goodness knows I can moan at times, but I think it’s more of a habit for people. Some people are happiest when they are having a good old moan and sometimes we all need to vent.

But if a moan is genuine, someone will be forced into taking action.

So this little reframe, has made me literally be able to ignore moans, check to see if they are genuine problems by whether people address their concerns or not. It really turned the negativity volume down on people for me this week.

I’m going to attempt to not moan at all this week – a bit of a challenge – any fancy trying it with me?

In my attempt to take action this week though, I encountered another response – neither negative nor positive – but paralysed which was really strange, I’ve seen it before in this person and never really thought much about it but I did this week.

He asked me what I’d been up to this week, and I explained that I was on my way out to a networking meeting to find people to make money for and with. I explained what my plans were briefly and that I wanted to get into property and help sellers find buyers and investors find deals.

Well he just froze, for several seconds, and then made his excuses and left.

Very curious! Most people I have started telling ask at least one question and most have an opinion, but this person, someone quite close to me, literally froze and then scurried away like scared rabbit.

It was hard not to feel little bit offended, I’d chosen very carefully the people I was going to tell but whatever the reason, I had to remind myself that his reaction is his reaction. Maybe he’ll come back next week and ask more, but I suspect it will never be mentioned again which is sad because I’d like to share this journey with him too. Hey ho.

Has this ever happened to you?

The next day though, I met someone I hadn’t met before at work, and we really clicked, I told her my plans and she had loads of questions which really helped me.

When I went to the bank to open a business account, I was able to talk really confidently and passionately about what I wanted to do even though I have never done it before. At first I think the the guy thought I was a fantasist, but by the end of our meeting, he was asking me loads! I felt really proud of myself, I didn’t let his eyebrow raises, or “are you sure” style questions shake me at all. And, I won him over! He started out sceptical but ended up intrigued.

Despite the strange episode halfway through the week, I have taken some quite big actions:

  • I have set up a limited company within which to operate my property plans
  • I’ve got the marketing going on the blog facebook page, with the help of a young entrepreneur
  • I’ve had a bit of brainstorm with a member of an online community I’m part of
  • I’ve registered with the ICO for data protection
  • I’ve outsourced my cleaning (feel so much better for doing this)
  • I’ve attended three training webinars and one networking event
  • I have my first viewings booked
  • I’ve opened a business bank account
  • I’ve written my first policy for my business
  • I’ve almost completed my website
  • I’m joining in much more on the forums and communities I’m part of and getting braver when approaching people
  • business cards and stationery have been ordered

I had a lovely message from a lady checking to see if I’d progressed this week and this really made me realise how important it is to be accountable, and how easy it is to talk yourself out doing things. Having someone checking up on you really makes you want to do even more đŸ™‚

Next week is going to be another week of action:

  • publish business website
  • attend two days of training in London with Cam
  • book more viewings
  • build new relationships
  • register with an ombudsman service
  • write two more polices or processes
  • read one physical book
  • listen to another great ebook
  • listen to podcasts every day instead of music

My favourite podcasts at the moment are:

The Disruptive Entrepreneur

Mark my Words

Goliath Sourcing Academy

amongst many others – podcasts are amazing!!! Find them on itunes or Stitcher

It’s been a while! This has been my struggle.

Something amazing has happened to me recently! Truly amazing!

I have been presented with a clear path to success – it’s so obviously the right path – and I’m still stood looking at it and feeling like another path is the one I should take.

How bonkers it that???!!!

Mark and I have just been for dinner and I finally admitted my self doubt. Despite having all the tools I need to take this path to success, I am struggling to walk along it. The last few months have been almost unbelievable for me, my life is going to change massively and as much as I’m a sceptic regarding “the universe” and concepts such as “cosmic ordering”, I simply cannot deny the opportunities and momentum that is occurring in my life since I wrote down what I want. I realised I hadn’t told Mark any of this, and how it all linked, he convinced me I needed to write about this and share my “stuckness” in the face of the glaringly obvious path to choose.

Here is the story:

You’ll know from my previous blog posts that I read The 4-Hour Work Week: Escape the 9-5, Live Anywhere and Join the New Rich in December and this had a massive impact on me. I decided to put something into practice:

  • I set goals
  • I learned to view work differently
  • I decided to learn and learn and learn

So I carried on this momentum and purchased a book called “Money: Know More, Make More, Give More by Rob Moore, whom I’d never heard of at this point but am now a total fan!. I felt sick as I read it, but for a great reason. I’d always been really proud of the values regarding money that I’d managed to instil in my son, Cam, mostly based on some major errors and hard earned learning myself. I realised reading this book, that I had set him on a fairly risky and thankless journey.

I wrote more goals based on the advice given in this book and worked on identifying my values. This has evolved over the couple of months and I now understand that I value security above all else. It’s vital to know what drives you but it can be quite hard to figure out.

I decided to follow the advice in both books and reach out to the people at the top. So I dropped Rob Moore a line, not expecting to hear anything back, but it pushed me out of my comfort zone and that was what I was aiming for. And you know what? I did hear back from Rob! Life has been pretty different since!

Reaching out like this led me to a massive new community and I was invited to attend some training. Which I did, and this has opened even more doors, physically and mentally and I have literally been soaking up all the learning I can as a result. I’ve been engaging in threads on Facebook and really getting a taste for path of success. I’ve already met lots of amazing and inspiring people and this has lead me to other learning and opportunities for Cam and I which I’m so excited about!

This opened me up to learning even more, and I’m hungry to know everything I can. But bizarrely, in my head, I’m stood at a crossroads looking down two different paths. The path on my right (in my head) is the path to success, I’m 110% sure of this, yet on my left, I feel a tug towards the path I know well.

This situation has practically paralysed me this last week. But I did recognise this in myself and instead of just stopping, as I previously would have, I kept soaking up the learning based on good advice, and this has gotten me to the point that I can verbally articulate my internal struggle to Mark. Mark pointed out the glaringly obvious to me (which I was unaware of):

  • I’m a qualified and experienced NLP practitioner – I understand people
  • I’m a qualified and experienced coach and I get great results when I do coach people
  • I’m real – I have a really rubbish filter and my thoughts just fall out (apparently this is good)
  • I just want to help people feel better about themselves and for themselves
  • my internal struggles are things other people will feel too
  • everyone gets stuck
  • most people give up at this point and stick to what they know
  • I have all the knowledge and tools I need and just need to take action

Bizarrely this resonated very loudly as yesterday I’d listened to a Progressive Property Podcast which talked about strengths and challenges and overcoming them.

So after a very frank discussion with mostly Mark talking (those of you who know us will know how unusual that is), I promised to take action.

  • I walked through the door and contacted a young entrepreneur who I’d been talking to about social media and told him to “go, go, go” with developing the reach for my blog page.
  • I typed this blog post and have set a goal to keep going, I’ve had great feedback so far and now I just need to be brave and let people I don’t know read my work.
  • I’m going to share this blog to a wider audience – eek
  • Tomorrow I am going to be setting up my property investment website
  • I am also going to package my first deal and present it to a friend who is an investor and get really valuable feedback from him at the very least, and who knows, maybe even a deal that will benefit us both
  • I’m going to stand up at two networking events this month and introduce myself, build my network and relationships for my business
  • I’m going to go on a course in two weeks time and ensure that I am taking actions based on my new learning straight away
  • I’m going to teach Cam what I learn, and drag him along to the courses I go on where I can, to teach him the right way to do things

I’m sharing this on my blog to keep me accountable – make sure you check up on me by sending me a message – I need a good shove down the path of success!

I thought I was stuck, I just needed to say it to the right person to know I need to constantly work on sorting my shit out. I felt a bit ashamed of my stuckness because even to me, the choice is obvious.

The mind is powerful, and part of being successful is not suppressing these thoughts, but acknowledging them and finding the right way to balance them.

Most people fear failure, my fear is of success, which sounds crazy, especially when you are so sure of how to achieve success. This recent journey has made me realise that I value security above anything else and although there is little risk in taking this path and much to gain, it’s different to what I know and that makes me insecure and therefore affects my deepest value. It’s a bit of a vicious cycle isn’t it. And this is why it’s so important that I have become part of such a large and supportive community and shared this experience and learning with Mark.

I’m choosing the path to success! As of now! And I’m going to struggle a bit with this. But being surrounded by people, virtually and in real life who can reassure me is so important. I’ve realised that I’ve often been given the tools to be successful in the past but I have never followed through with consistent action. Well that changes now!

If you’d like to get inspired head to these websites:

http://www.robmoore.com

http://www.unlimited-success.co.uk

http://www.progressiveproperty.co.uk