This week: Radiators, Drains and another type of person!

Well, since last week it’s been a whirlwind. I promised myself (and you) I would get moving forward with my actions towards success and what a week it has been. I have forgotten just how much I have managed to get done.

I’m still scared a bit but mostly excited, isn’t funny how these two feel very similar, and the only difference is mindset?

I remember a good friend of mine telling me there were two types of people, radiators and drains. People who radiate positivity and vigour, and those who just “drain the life out of you” as my friend put it.

This week, I have attracted lots of radiators, from unexpected places and it’s been inspiring to have them push me forward and I felt I’ve been able to provide a bit of forward movement for them too which is amazing.

I went to a networking event, and although I didn’t do as well as I wanted to, I got there and spoke to people – next one at the end of the month – I will be braver still at that one. Being surrounded by positive and successful people really is catching and I love it.

I’m very lucky that I have very few drains in my life, they probably got annoyed with my positivity to be honest but there are a few and this week I’ve found a way to tune out of it so that it doesn’t “stick” to me.

I only listen to actions.

People moan a lot, I believe some of it is genuine, goodness knows I can moan at times, but I think it’s more of a habit for people. Some people are happiest when they are having a good old moan and sometimes we all need to vent.

But if a moan is genuine, someone will be forced into taking action.

So this little reframe, has made me literally be able to ignore moans, check to see if they are genuine problems by whether people address their concerns or not. It really turned the negativity volume down on people for me this week.

I’m going to attempt to not moan at all this week – a bit of a challenge – any fancy trying it with me?

In my attempt to take action this week though, I encountered another response – neither negative nor positive – but paralysed which was really strange, I’ve seen it before in this person and never really thought much about it but I did this week.

He asked me what I’d been up to this week, and I explained that I was on my way out to a networking meeting to find people to make money for and with. I explained what my plans were briefly and that I wanted to get into property and help sellers find buyers and investors find deals.

Well he just froze, for several seconds, and then made his excuses and left.

Very curious! Most people I have started telling ask at least one question and most have an opinion, but this person, someone quite close to me, literally froze and then scurried away like scared rabbit.

It was hard not to feel little bit offended, I’d chosen very carefully the people I was going to tell but whatever the reason, I had to remind myself that his reaction is his reaction. Maybe he’ll come back next week and ask more, but I suspect it will never be mentioned again which is sad because I’d like to share this journey with him too. Hey ho.

Has this ever happened to you?

The next day though, I met someone I hadn’t met before at work, and we really clicked, I told her my plans and she had loads of questions which really helped me.

When I went to the bank to open a business account, I was able to talk really confidently and passionately about what I wanted to do even though I have never done it before. At first I think the the guy thought I was a fantasist, but by the end of our meeting, he was asking me loads! I felt really proud of myself, I didn’t let his eyebrow raises, or “are you sure” style questions shake me at all. And, I won him over! He started out sceptical but ended up intrigued.

Despite the strange episode halfway through the week, I have taken some quite big actions:

  • I have set up a limited company within which to operate my property plans
  • I’ve got the marketing going on the blog facebook page, with the help of a young entrepreneur
  • I’ve had a bit of brainstorm with a member of an online community I’m part of
  • I’ve registered with the ICO for data protection
  • I’ve outsourced my cleaning (feel so much better for doing this)
  • I’ve attended three training webinars and one networking event
  • I have my first viewings booked
  • I’ve opened a business bank account
  • I’ve written my first policy for my business
  • I’ve almost completed my website
  • I’m joining in much more on the forums and communities I’m part of and getting braver when approaching people
  • business cards and stationery have been ordered

I had a lovely message from a lady checking to see if I’d progressed this week and this really made me realise how important it is to be accountable, and how easy it is to talk yourself out doing things. Having someone checking up on you really makes you want to do even more 🙂

Next week is going to be another week of action:

  • publish business website
  • attend two days of training in London with Cam
  • book more viewings
  • build new relationships
  • register with an ombudsman service
  • write two more polices or processes
  • read one physical book
  • listen to another great ebook
  • listen to podcasts every day instead of music

My favourite podcasts at the moment are:

The Disruptive Entrepreneur

Mark my Words

Goliath Sourcing Academy

amongst many others – podcasts are amazing!!! Find them on itunes or Stitcher

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